One of my closest friends is having a baby girl (yay!) and her baby shower was today. When I was shopping for her and writing her card, I just kept thinking “I can’t wait for this little princess.” or “this baby girl is going to be such a precious princess!” And that’s when I started thinking about how important that word is.
How often do we tell little girls that they’re princesses or that they should find someone who treats them like a princess? All the time! What does that lead to? Spoiled young women and unrealistic expectations of love and how we should be treated in a relationship. Now I’m not saying you should be treated like dirt, nobody should have to go through a bad relationship, but on the other hand, don’t expect to be waited on hand and foot and not expected to give anything in return.
When I was growing up, everyone told me I was a princess. My family always called me princess and would sarcastically respond with “yes, princess” when I asked a question. I grew into adolescence 100% believing I should be seen as a princess, treated as a princess, and look like a princess. That pressure was so overwhelming! I don’t blame my parents for my unrealistic expectations of love and of myself, but I blame myself for the way I perceived it. Obviously it’s a lot to live up to and the fairy tale got ugly very quickly. I was 18 when I fully recognized and validated my body dysmorphia and atypical anorexia, but the symptoms had been there mentally since I was 15 or 16. I was not and am not a typical storybook princess.
But, I am a princess.
I’m a princess because I’m a daughter of the One True King. I am loved by God exactly the way I am. He loved me so much that He sent His son to die for me. I’m a princess because God sees my soul, and He knows the deepest part of my heart. Guess what? You’re a princess, too! The One True King loves you!
“It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that should make you beautiful. No, your beauty should come from inside you –the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. That beauty will never disappear and it is worth very much to God.”
— 1 Peter 3:3-4
As princesses and daughters of the Lord, we are to love well and show compassion to others. We need to be kind, gentle, thankful, and gracious. Our hearts and soul mean so much more to Christ than our outward beauty does. Allowing ourselves to fully embrace the idea of being God’s princess, daughters of the True King, will open so many doors for us. We will be satisfied with the love from our Savior, and we will be loving and grace giving women.
Teach your daughters, friends, nieces, and women around you that they are a true princess and a very loved daughter of the one who died for them. Teach them love and gentleness. Nothing is worth more to God than us living our lives for Him.
Remember my friends, you are SO loved and cared for by the Lord. You are His true princess.